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hovering over “picture post” ~ by Artist Wife

We all do this to some degree. We take a picture or two then hmm and ha about whether to post to our profile or send to someone. That is hard enough, but what about us bloggers? What we post is available for the whole world to see should they be so inclined.

The concern isn’t about these pictures being available to anyone at anytime just by a click of a button. It is about whether we would be ok if they knew the pics were of us, our true identities, rather than our blogging alter egos. It’s one thing for Stella Kiink (yes, I am going to refer to myself in the third person, thank you very much) to have her bits on display but what if it were Jane Smith (also not my real name) from the Parent Teacher Association? Would Jane be ok with having her bits posted on the internet? Would she care if the principal of her kids elementary school knew the boobs he was drooling over belonged to little Jimmy’s Mom?

We are all ok with Stella Kiink’s pictures because she is an adult blogger and she’s expressing herself through her words and pictures. Many of the people who view Stella’s blog are generally other bloggers or people who are open-minded enough to know that breasts aren’t pornographic, it’s the way we perceive them that makes them so. We can see the artistry of Stella’s words and pictures. We can relate to her insecurities. We also share her secrets, the one’s Stella shares but are never known in Jane’s world. If we ran into her in the street or at some event we’d likely just say something like great blog or nice post you did for that meme, or I really didn’t like that picture or your arse the other day. We may not like everything that Stella posts but there would be no judgment of her about what she does post.

Would we be ok knowing it was pictures of Jane Smith’s vagina or breasts we were seeing without wanting her kicked off the PTA? Would we be ok reading the stories of her attending play parties or being turned on by pain without having that negate the wonderful parent she is or the valuable contributions she makes to the PTA? Would we be ok with Jane Smith chaperoning our child on a week-long school trip if we knew about the things she did with that young man 17 years her junior? Would we put her in charge of the fall fair if we knew she submitted on bended knee to the man she calls MySir?

You or I would be ok with it, at least I believe we would considering we all have stories that are similar in many ways. We all have parts of ourselves we only show at certain times, with certain people, or on certain media. Many wouldn’t be as understanding though. Too many people are unable to compartmentalize, to separate the different parts of themselves. They assume that because you blog about sex it must be part of every moment of every thing you do. Truth is, it is often on my mind to some degree, but I am quite capable of accomplishing many other things in life that have nothing to do with sex or blogging.

Truth is, the people who would have issue with Jane having pictures of her vajayjay on the internet, they believe that people who participate in a non-vanilla lifestyle are deviants and degenerates. Not because they think we are awful people really, but because they have the same feelings and urges and don’t know how to reconcile them with the good, decent people they are. They have bought into the brainwashing. They have been told that good people don’t do such things for so long that they believe there is something truly wrong with themselves because they do desire those things.

It’s like telling a 100 lb girl that she’s fat. She isn’t of course, but when she is told she is over and over she ends up believing it. She will starve herself until she can’t handle it any more then start binging in secret. That’s what people do who suppress their sexual urges and desires do. They lay judgment on those who freely express and give into their desires while they suppress their own until they can’t any longer and end up doing something very stupid in response. Often they cheat on their spouses, start lying to them and hiding things from them. Men get blowjobs from random women or prostitutes because they’ve married a “good girl” who won’t do that. They don’t even know if their wives would do it because they have no experience and they’ve never asked. Women have affairs with “bad boys” who tell them they’re dirty little sluts, pull their hair, and make them call them Daddy. Somehow these things are more acceptable to them than coming out and being honest about their desires.

What we need to do is stop making other people feel bad for the choices they make and the beliefs they have. Sure, let’s make the murderer feel bad, but not the woman who gets off on having her ass whipped or the man who likes sucking cocks as much as he likes getting his own sucked. We need to stop judging those who live their lives different from us and treating them like they are somehow broken because of their lifestyles. We also need to accept the parts of ourselves that are different, the ones that keep us up at night worrying that somebody might find out. We need to stop hovering and jump in.




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I tend to take a lot of photos. Of everything. Yes, everything. There are currently 1,234 on my phone. All taken by me, save one, and most taken in the last month or so. I do download them to my laptop regularly and delete the vast majority from my phone but it does seem to be a never ending cycle. I say majority because there are a few I’ve kept on there that are more than two years old. The photoI used in the post A Matter of Time is the oldest one on my phone and I’d say it is closer to three years old.

Why do I take so many photographs? I don’t know. Many reasons I guess. I like capturing special or funny moments so I can go back and look at them again and again. I like telling a story with pictures. The evolution of my child from a pea in my belly to the fabulous four year old he currently is, and hopefully on to adulthood and parenthood, is one of those stories. One photo I’ve kept is of him at my cousin’s last Christmas with a tiara on and the biggest smile ever. That one will be included on the picture roll at his wedding, should he get married. He’s actually taken one photo that is still on my phone. His first mirror selfie. Oh my!

I also take pictures of things I want to remember, crafty ideas and such, or pictures that inspire a story of fiction. There are pictures I took at the dollar store of pervertables. There are pictures of various jewelry finds and designs to help inspire me for my project with Artist Wife. There is a picture of a bottle of homeopathic asthma remedy my naturopath prescribed that I am currently out of and need to replace. There are pictures of storage units I saw last week at Ikea that would be great in my entryway. There is also a picture I found on Twitter that is the inspiration behind a story I hope to write in time for the A Darker Flame meme this month.

Since beginning this blog more and more of the photos I take are of me and my naked bits. I have found that I am much more an exhibitionist than I ever thought. I also find that these photos show there is more to me that the scars I was used to always seeing when I looked at my body. Some are basic nudity, although very few. The majority, I think, are creative and artistic. Many of these I use for my Sinful Sunday posts. Not bad for an 8 megapixel autofocus with a f/2.4 aperture and LED flash (I have no idea what any of that means!).

You don’t need a big camera and a lot of expensive camera equipment to take a good photograph. This you can trust me on. All of the photos I’ve taken and posted on this blog were taken on a cell phone.

Now, since this is Wicked Wednesday, I couldn’t write a post about photographs and not include a wicked one for you. 😉

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my nipple, sporting some lovely clamp marks





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Word Count = 275 

Required Word = Wager

Forbidden Words = Porn, Panties, Camera

Bonus Words = Tell us where to the pictures end up a year later (+43 words)

Extra Credit = Add a picture of your own.

Join in the fun and write a piece of your own, or read all this week’s entries here.

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“Don’t worry hun, you’ve got this, you radiate sexiness and it will show through. You’re fucking fantastic!”

Jim really wanted to get some sexy pictures to submit to the SelfLove.org contest. I wanted them too, I thought. It wasn’t like I never took pictures or video, but doing it to send off to strangers in hopes of winning some contest that was open to everyone in the free world, now that was a long shot at best. I just couldn’t shake the nagging feeling that something bad was going to happen.

As I lay there, pretending to be all into it, I found myself getting really turned on. I imagined a group of men standing around in their suit and ties, looking at the pictures and getting aroused, getting aroused by me, my body, my movements. Then I imagined those big dark men I see in the Hedonism ads all buff and oiled up. They could take me I thought. They could take me all together if they wanted. Damn, the thought nearly sent me over the edge.

“Oh, baby, yeah baby, cum for me, let me see it.”

“Put that thing down and come take me.” I wanted him to shut up so I could keep playing the fantasy in my head.

Then reality took over.

That was over a year ago. I knew I should never have listened to that pitiful man. He used the video from that day to get in on a blackjack game and lost. Now here I am strapped to a bed giving myself up to some other creep, wagering myself in order to get the video back.

What fantasy can I turn to now to take me away from here?

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Sex sex and more sex

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1. Have you ever considered yourself completely sexually satisfied?
(Thank you Sex in Words for this question)
In a word, no. Even when I have a great sexual experience I find that I’m not ready for it to end when he is. I will fall asleep and wake up just as wanting as I was earlier, if not more so. The most satisfied I have been is when I have been in a threesome with two men. Maybe I just need more of that. 😉

2. What was the last sexy photo you took?
The last sexy photo I took was of my butt for FL. Had gotten several requests so finally decided to give it a go. I personally don’t find it one of my flattering features but it gets a lot of compliments.

3. When was the last sexy photo you took AND sexted? What was it of and to whom was it sent?
I took a pic of myself last week with my clit clamped with a clothes peg and sent it to Him. I wanted to do it for him and I knew he would love seeing it.

4. How is your sex-life?
a. Like a wet blanket – from me squirting all over it!
b. Like a warm cozy comforter
c. Like an electric blanket getting you all heated up
d. None of the above, I sleep without covers

5. What’s your idea of good foreplay?
What is foreplay supposed to lead to? Does foreplay always have to lead to intercourse? I don’t think that’s a fair assumption as often times a great sexual experience can be had without intercourse. Sometimes foreplay is the sexual act. For me, I like when he tells me what he is going to do to me, how he is going to do it. I like when he tells me to not wear panties that day or to wear my nipple bands to work. Little messages teasing me, painting images in my head, and leaving me aching and wet until he allows me to do something about it. Sometimes his voice in my ear, his breath on my skin, without him touching me physically. The anticipation of what may be to come.

Bonus: Can you have a great, long-lasting sex life with the same partner? How?
Polyamory and swinging aside, I believe you can. I think people become complacent and don’t keep working at it as they should. Your sex life in your 60’s isn’t going to be the same as when you were in your 20’s, but then it shouldn’t be the same. It should evolve like everything else in your life. If your sex life isn’t great there is usually some other reason. More often than not it is something in your relationship that manifests itself in your sex life. You need to put effort into fixing that rather than going out and putting the effort in with someone else. Communication is of utmost importance. If you can communicate with your partner openly and honestly about issues you are having, both in and out of the bedroom, they won’t find a way to get between you.

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