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He was quiet the next two days before trying to initiate another conversation. I didn’t respond.

The third day he apologized again.

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I have not responded. That didn’t stop him from sending me a message on FetLife to tell me he received some new toys he had ordered and wanted to use them on me.

WTF?!?

I’ve only met this guy twice. The first was at a munch and the second at a coffee shop for a drink. Both times he barely said a word which left the conversations more than lacking. I don’t even know why I agreed to meet him after the munch in the first place. It wasn’t because I was interested in dating him. I was skeptical about him from the start, which I told him several times. I need to learn to listen to that skeptical voice and quit giving the wrong people chances they don’t deserve.

I should have known he was off his rocker when I didn’t respond fast enough to a message on FetLife one day and he got perturbed. I said, “You do realize I’m working right now?” His response was, “I don’t realize but I can take an educated guess you are working. After you tell me you are working then it is a realization.” Childish response or what? I don’t know when people expect me to be working my 9-5 office job if not between the hours of 9 and 5. Seriously!

There have been a few times when he has gone off on me because I was too busy to respond to him or meet him. He’s said it’s “logically bullshit” that I am too busy. I got a “you listen to me” as well. Excuse me, what now?

What started the exchange above was him asking me if I was currently sexually involved with someone. I said yes, I have a friend. Well, that lead to him saying how terrible I was, how all those times I was busy I was actually going out with my “fuck buddy or laying on (my) back,” and how do I think someone who wants to date me is going to stick around to get dicked around while I do that. Then he started in on how I’m playing him and he won’t allow himself to be punked or insulted like that. He even tried to tell me what a “lying POS” I am because he’s come to some conclusion that I had a fuck buddy when I was seeing MySir. He doesn’t know any of the details about that relationship and had he asked he would have found out.

I’m not going to defend myself here because anyone who reads my blog or follows me on Twitter will already know the truth, enough of it at least to know that the person he was describing isn’t me. Besides that, he had stated about ten minutes into my first meeting him that he reads my blog and thought it was great. Don’t tell me you do something if you don’t, and don’t pretend to know me when clearly you don’t know anything about me or what I’ve been through these past couple of years.

There’s a bunch more but it all seems so stupid and childish. He pretty much screams immature, unbalanced abuser to me. Verbally attacking me, trying to manipulate me, then minimalizing it all by offering to bring me flowers. An apology and “are we cool?” is going to make it all better and I’m just supposed to forgive and forget? I don’t think so. It’s like the woman who gets hit because her husband had a bad day at the office then he buys her flowers and expects her to forget all about the bruise on her cheek. Not this girl. That is abuse, classic abuse, and I won’t accept it.

I may be in my 40’s and currently single, but I would much rather be alone than with a pathetic, delusional little man who thinks verbally attacking a woman, putting her down and blaming her, is the way to get her. There are plenty of real men, kind and considerate men, out there. One will come my way. And if one doesn’t I still have the best man in the world, my son.

BTW, my favorite color is red.

 

Note: This person has been deleted and blocked on my social media sites. Anyone know if I can block his calls and texts on my cell phone?

 

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Then he said something about how I should have been more cautious, how my life would have turned out very differently if I hadn’t allowed myself to get pregnant by “THAT” kind of guy, and that he doesn’t date or even talk to women with “fuck buddies”. Now, I had told him the whole story about my son’s father on a previous occasion so he already knew how long we had been together and known each other. It isn’t something I like to discuss with people and I don’t do it often, but I was trying to be completely open from the beginning and give this guy a chance. You see how well that worked.

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He continued with a spiel about how I have a fuck buddy (which is not what I said), and how I am a “lying POS” because he can’t follow the concept of an open relationship and having a partner who enjoys seeing and hearing about you being with someone else. Nor can he understand that changing a relationship status on social media does not mean it just happened that very second. To be fair, he would not have seen when I deleted my owned status back at the beginning of the summer only when I changed it to unowned more recently. Although, he did ask me out several times before I added the unowned part.

He says he follows my blog and has read a lot of the comments I’ve made on FetLife. Apparently not enough to know anything about me. I suspect he saw that I wrote this blog, along with the pics that I’ve posted, and wanted to be a part of it. He has only called me by my real name two times that I can see. I even responded with his FetLife name once so he could see how stupid it was. He didn’t catch the hint. The one time I met him for a drink he gave himself the moniker Mr Ten. He said ten because he wanted people to think about why it was Mr Ten rather than Mr X.

Well, here you go Mr X, welcome to the blog!

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A Typo and A Toy

I received a beautiful silver bracelet for Christmas with some lovely engraved beads. I received two bracelets actually, one from my son and one from a friend. The friend’s, of course, was intended for my more kinky side.

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This bead is supposed to say Stella Kiink on it. The Stella part looks great…


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…however the Kiink part wasn’t so great. See? It says Klink. Klink! I was told a replacement was coming. Let’s hope so because as nice as the thought is, this isn’t a case where it’s the thought that matters. Getting what you ordered and paid for matters, and correct spelling matters.


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Oh, and there’s a frisky little fireman too. I am sure he will have plenty of stories to share with everyone in the new year.


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Aren’t my friends thoughtful? They really are the best. 🙂


Sinful Sunday

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One year! Stella Kiink is one year old today! I know this may seem paltry to some of you who have been blogging for years, but for me it’s a big deal. I wasn’t sure I could make it a month let alone a year, and now I am already planning things for the coming year.

When I began blogging it was more of a challenge than a true desire to blog. A friend and I were discussing the merits of 50 Shades of Grey (I know, laugh away), and he said I could do better. After reading it I am sure I could in some respects, but I also know he could do much better if he was so inclined as well. I believe I am a far better editor than I am a writer and the thought of writing a book is quite overwhelming to me at the moment. Editing one can be difficult enough at times. I do hope to write one in the future, but for now my little blog suits me just fine.

I wanted to write something fabulous for Wicked Wednesday, really I did, but being at the cottage the last few days with no internet, along with the problems I’ve been having with WordPress on my phone, it hasn’t quite worked out. I am looking forward to reading everyone else’s dirty talk though. Wasn’t it nice of Marie to have you all talk dirty for me this week? Haha… Maybe I will find some inspiration here for another week.

I thought that today, in honour of my first anniversary blogging as Stella Kiink, I would share a few of my favourite photos from the past year. I hope you enjoy and stick around for year two.

Love,
Stella

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Release

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Sloshed

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Waxed

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Playful


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